When it is OK to not to be OK

March 2019 is revealing itself to be a power month,  fast-paced and bringing with it many changes for us all.


Next week, we have the Spring Equinox which will feel like a new beginning, astrologically speaking. We will also have a full moon in supermoon (last of the three). Therefore, we are clearing ourselves on all levels, in preparation for this happening.


It feels like we are going through a huge detoxification process on an energetic, emotional and physical level. Physical symptoms are surfacing for many of us, as we shift and change to embody more light.


A lot of people seem to be suffering from headaches, feelings of disorientation, ringing in the ears, periods of intense tiredness and nausea, etc. This is because our energy body is getting affected by the shifts in frequency, orchestrated by cosmological and astrological happenings. Our energy body is like a blue print which impacts on our emotional body and subsequently our physical body.


I feel that we are going through such an intense period of change this year, that we are having to integrate all of these changes quickly, leaving us feeling disorientated, confused and even fearful at times. Some of us may even be pulling up grief around losing aspects of our self.


It is vital to support our selves as much as possible, at the moment. By considering ourselves to be in a detoxification period and therefore adopting a light and fresh diet with plenty of water and a minimum of junk food, would be a great start! Salt baths, moving as much as possible and being outside to connect with nature would also help support us, physically and emotionally.


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At this time, we may also be getting lots of inspiration in our waking or dream state, regarding our personal transformation and change. It is an auspicious time to take note of any ideas - writing them down and ensuring to take inspired action upon them, as soon as we are ready and able to.


We may find, amidst the intensity, that our priorities are also shifting and changing because we have so much to accomplish!!


We will be continually upgrading ourselves to reflect these personal changes. The way we present our self generally, our appearance, or even our social media presence will probably start to change. This is an auspicious time to be showing our authentic self.


Mercury is in retrograde this month and is asking us to be diligent and thorough in all that we do. Pay attention to our inner conversations and those that we have with others. Act in the moment with consciousness and check our intent before speaking or taking action.


We may be experiencing dense and heavy emotions at this time because Mercury is asking us to look over old ground.  Because of this, past acquaintances may be resurfacing, enabling us to clear the energy and rekindle our relationship in a more positive way.


This is also an auspicious time to be enhancing and developing our intuitive skills. Creating time to hear those soul whispers and getting into the habit of stilling ourselves regularly, is important.


Once in that still state of receptivity, we can obtain guidance by simply asking the questions that need answering - out loud or in our head. Pay attention, our soul whispers can be so subtle at first, that we hardly hear them. Build the faith and trust that what we are sensing, hearing or feeling, is our intuitive guidance and not our own wishful or fearful thoughts.


Just like nature herself, we are cyclical beings and so are not in full bloom 100% of the time. We have many periods within a day, month or year where we feel introspective. We want to withdraw and do not feel sociable. We need to honour these times and surrender to them as much as possible. It may seem like we are going against the grain of social conditioning, by surrendering, resting and withdrawing during these introspective moments, but it is essential to our wellness to surrender to these times and honour ourselves within that.



The importance of self-acceptance for authenticity

This week beginning Monday 4th March 2019, planetary re-alignments are forming incredible geometric lines of energy between the planets. This is enabling our consciousness to rise. This month of March is a power month and we are yielding the results of all the clearing that we have been doing over the past few months.


We are now ready to take inspired action and commence our personal changes, anchoring them onto our reality. This month will be a fast-spaced month. We will have more of an ability to see the bigger picture in our lives and therefore pushed to be open to newness and variety.


On March 5th to 6th, the planet Mercury starts to retrograde for about 3 weeks. When Mercury, the ruler of communication, is in retrograde (this occurs 3 – 4 times a year), we are being drawn to going over old ground and enter a period of self-evaluation. This period regresses us and past acquaintances may resurface in our lives. This presents us with a golden opportunity to shift old energy between us so that we can rekindle the relationship in a more positive way.


We have also had a new moon this week, which always signifies new beginnings and new action steps to take. A new moon also encourages and inspires reflection on what has been and what we have achieved during the last lunar cycle.


This is a 3:3:3 year, so a year of deep change and transformation for all of us. We are being pushed energetically to bring in these changes into our lives, to speak our truth and show the world who we truly are.


This week, therefore, I felt guided to talk about being and honouring our authentic self by re-connecting not only with our higher, divine self but also accepting and connecting to all aspects of ourself.


So what are all the aspects of ourself?


Our personality self is shaped by our beliefs and experiences. Our ego is the part of our personality that likes to be in control and in the driving seat. The ego is driven by fear that pushes us to control and manipulate situations, outcomes and people in our lives. We also have what I like to call our shadow self which incorporates negative patterning, behaviours and tendencies that we all have. Lastly, we have our divine, soul or higher self. All of these aspects are very much part of who we are. We need to recognise all these aspects of ourselves to continue our path of spiritual growth and personal development.


To embrace our authentic self, we must first learn to accept all of these parts, recognising them for what they are. Not allowing the ego and shadow-self aspects to take over is also important. The more we accept all parts of our self, the more we can shine our raw, real, beautiful self out into the world. As we do so, we start to develop our inner-strength and strengthen our sense of self.


Our sense of self creates a stability within us, that enabling us to detach from other people’s energy, intent, thoughts and feelings. We start to accept others, becoming patient and strong with them, as we have become of our self. And we may even find that we are becoming beacons of light for our loved ones, the spiritual trail blazer within the family unit.


As we walk our talk more, becoming that shining, authentic example for others, remember to pause before taking action or communicating. Explain to others that you need a moment to ‘process’ or ‘take on board’ what has just been communicated to you. Become more responsive rather than reactive. This allows you to connect in with your intuitive self and obtain higher guidance for the best way forward for everyone concerned.

People will feel this shift in your intent and it will give them permission to do the same.




Stepping into our power


Humanity as a whole, experienced intense energy shifts last week, during the full moon supermoon period. We are now integrating these shifts and are being given an opportunity to see, from a bird’s eye perspective, a higher view and understanding of our life. When we see from a higher perspective, we no longer get so caught up in the drama that life and negative circumstances bring to us. We start to gain clarity and understanding over the aspects of our lives that have perhaps eluded us up until now.  


This week the moon is drawing to her last quarter, bringing a sense of completion. It is a good time to finish off any tasks. We can enjoy more groundedness and with Mars and the sun in alignment, we are being gifted with resolve and action. It is important, therefore, to take that action, at present. If we are unsure about which direction to take, simply pause for inspiration, insight and guidance.


It is an optimal time to get busy, start new projects and embrace your own style and sense of uniqueness within that.


We will know what to say and do in the moment, our intuition being strong. It is a good time to practise speaking straight from the heart and pausing before speaking to gain centredness and heart connection, enabling our words to radiate love.


We have now entered the Chironic age of Aries. Chiron is a minor planet that delegates our deepest core wounding. Chiron has just entered the constellation of Aries and humanity is learning to step into its power.


Because of this Chironic Aries age, we may be experiencing imbalances in the way we hold and use our power, as we learn to become more powered within ourselves. We can sometimes be overpowered with others and too much in our ego. Or, we can often be underpowered by giving our power away to others.


This tendency is often due to feelings of low self-esteem and low self-worth.


Sometimes, we surrogate others when we feel responsible for them, not allowing them to make their mistakes. This can be very depleting and draining for us and at times also very disempowering.


When we give our power away to others, we are leaking our energy to them. Once this starts to happen, we become very impacted by negative energies from our environment. We quickly become depleted on a physical, mental, emotional and even spiritual level. Mentally and emotionally, we find it hard to be resilient to negative thoughts and feelings. We may even experience a little depression. Over a long period of time, we become exhausted physically. When we are depleted, re-connection to our hearts becomes difficult and increasing disconnection from spirit, more likely.


We find it hard to resource and rejuvenate from nature’s source energy or our own spiritual connection and practices. A negative downward spiral starts to form and we become more impacted by negative thought projections and power plays.


This downward spiral of negativity limits us and restricts us from reaching our full potential.


When depleted, the Feeling Vortex, a large energy centre incorporating both the solar plexus and sacral chakras, is too open. The Feeling Vortex, generates and weaves energy into the whole of our etheric body. Source energy also enters in through our Feeling Vortex, whether of a lower or higher vibration. If the Feeling Vortex has been open for a while, we will feel the struggle. By shutting down the Feeling Vortex, we shut down our sensitivity, so that we do not feel so energetically drained.


The Feeling Vortex procedure in outlined in the Beyond Doorways book, written by Alexis Cartwright, Founder of Transference Healing.




Happy Valentine's Day. Are you feeling the love?

This is a day of LOVE not only for others but for us too.  How is your heart feeling on this day of love? Are you experiencing this higher vibrational energy of love that will be impacting on most of humanity as the day goes on? We will be able to connect in a deeper and more loving way to others today. Acts of kindness, however small, for yourself, as well as for others, are important today. Honour the self and others with love today!


The year 2019 is bringing to humanity, lighter and more positive frequencies. In consequence, we are being called to break down old paradigms and negative patterning, so that our ego can no longer run the show! We have to ‘get out of our own way’, so that we can surrender to our higher self, enabling soul to come through.  We are letting go, de-coding & re-coding in preparation for the year ahead.  

Consequently, we are being driven to be more in alignment with our higher selves, more intuitive and heart-connected. These new frequencies are pushing us all to be open to change.  

Although we may desire this transformation, we fear it within ourselves! It is painful to relive old wounds and unresolved emotions that can surface when we open up our hearts. But we cannot be 'in our hearts' and also in judgement simultaneously, blaming others or trapped in a victim-hood.

This week, the cosmic energy is strong with two powerful alignments in Mars and Mercury. Mars energy holds the masculine principle and resonates with fire. It enables us to make ‘on the spot’ decisions and to take quick action.


Our intuitive guidance is heightened right now, as we lead more with soul. Be bold and forthright with your intentions, following through with actions. This will give permission to others to do the same.


Mercurian influence gives us the courage to speak our truth this week and remember, our growing connection to our higher self, enables us to speak from an intuitive and heart-felt space.



Letting go of restrictive emotions


The January 2019 post eclipse phase has now ended. Humanity, as a whole, has experienced an enormous energy shift during this eclipse season. Comparing ourselves as we are now to how we were before December 2018, enables us to appreciate the many changes that have occurred within ourselves.


Following on from this eclipse period, all of these changes now have to be integrated. There are no planetary retrogrades until March this year and so nothing is holding us back energetically. This is the time to be anchoring more of our dreams and desires into our reality.


Centering and introspection are required to gain clarity and intuitive guidance around what we need to focus on right now with regards to our inner changes.


We need to use this energy to refocus and get clear on our potential projects. Our gut instincts are spot on right now. We have the influence of Venus at the beginning of February, helping us to be more heart centred and intuitive.


With Jupiter’s influence – the energies become very expansive at this time – again supporting us in our quest for self-transformation.


Getting clear as to whether we need help to start or complete our projects and whether there are any limiting beliefs and fears that are holding us back from realising our dreams, is important.


With any kind of change and transformation, deep-seated and suppressed emotions that have limited us, will rise to the surface.


Remember that they are coming up to clear, enabling us to bring in and birth new aspects of ourselves. This is part of a very natural process. Negative emotions, will have restricted and kept us locked in a patterning for so long, that we have been unable to move forwards and have become blocked as a result.

They can originate from painful childhood memories and even deep trauma from past and present lifetimes!

Remember, thoughts and feelings are not who we are and they certainly do not define us! They are simply experiences for each and everyone one of us to have. We simply tend to give them too much power. 

To enable us to release them a little more, we need to set the intent to allow those thoughts to surface, feel them and then allow them to release and dissolve in their own time, without attaching our mental thoughts to them.

Remember that planetary re-alignments and cosmological events will trigger clearing and deep releasing from within us. This is an inevitable and natural cycle that we all go through, whether we are aware of it or not. Spiritual practices, such as meditation and high frequency healing modalities such as Transference Healing will also release blockages and break down negative patterning within the body.  They will also support us through the shifts.

What happens when we set our intent to do something for our personal and spiritual growth  

Have you ever noticed that when you set your intent to create positive change in your life, you often get limiting and fearful thoughts rising up?


Do you ever have those little gremlins that whisper in your ear when you are thinking about creating making changes in your life?


‘I haven’t got enough money to do that!’ or ‘what if I grow apart from my partner?’ or ‘what if the kids suffer because I am going to need more time to focus on this, right now?’ or ‘I do not deserve to spend this amount of money on myself!’


Sound familiar?


This is all part of what we call in Transference Healing, the ‘Purification’ and ‘Integration’ process. It is something that we all experience in our lives, whether we are aware of it or not.


As soon as we recognise those limiting thoughts that block our soul’s growth, remember that the reason we have not already taken the steps to bring about the change and transformation, is because of those exact same thoughts. They are simply coming up for us to recognise them for what they are and to let them go!


These limiting thoughts have been like a broken record in our heads for most of our lives!


Our point of power is surrendering to our limiting blocks in the moment as they surface. This gives us a wonderful opportunity to release more of these restrictive thoughts that have kept us locked in and small!


Often, when we are attending training workshops and events, particularly in the spiritual industry, we feel on a natural high as our vibration is uplifted and our frequency shifts. We then return to our lives at the end and we have to integrate the shifts that have occurred during the event or training.


We can often feel frustration and even resentment, once back at home. We sense that our frequency has shifted within us whilst everything around us seems stagnant or mismatched.


In this moment, it is vital to remember and understand that we are going through an Integration process. We need to surrender to and let go of any negative feelings that come up for us, during this time. Those in our lives will most likely catch us up, at some point and so we need to stop overcontrolling and simply surrender to these feelings.


This is when the real work begins and in order to make those shifts sustainable within us, we must continue to surrender to the feelings and thoughts that surface and then let them go!



How to shift karmic entanglement and create harmony and balance within your relationships

We have just experienced an intense two weeks of clearing, cleansing and shifting eclipse energies. A full lunar eclipse on a supermoon (the first of three in a row), occurred in the early hours of Monday 21st January 2019. This full lunar eclipse has now closed the eclipse doorway and opportunities for deep releasing of old energies that no longer serve us. Over the next few days, I suggest that you take things easy, allowing the processing and integration of these clearing energies. If you have allowed the shifts to occur within yourself, now is the time to integrate these changes and welcome in new aspects of yourself into your life.

With these eclipse energies, many of my clients, friends and family have been feeling very depleted; experiencing headaches; mood fluctuations and unexplained transitory physical symptoms.

We are experiencing a major energetic reset this year and are being cosmically pushed to throw caution to the wind and surrender to these changes.

This is the year for new ideas, dreams and opportunities. We have to be open to receive the divine whisperings and embrace the transformation.

A big part of the changes for everyone this year, include letting go of limiting emotions and karmic entanglement. At the moment, we have a golden opportunity for the deep release of old karmic patterns. Karma is likely to be playing out in our lives when we continually think about someone or a group of people and we do not understand the reasons why.

We might want to communicate something to them or connect to them in some way. We could be feeling anxious for them or anger and resentment towards them.

When focussing on another person in this way – our energy will be impacting on them, through our thoughts and feelings. They will sense our energy and will most likely be thinking of us repeatedly too. Although they will not understand why either.

Depending on the frequency of our thoughts and feelings, our emotional energy will either weaken or strengthen the other person. The more negative and denser our thoughts, the lower our frequency, which in turn impacts on them by lowering their frequency.  

As they become impacted and triggered by our thoughts and feelings, that are directed towards them, they will simply deflect that energy back towards us. This in turn, will impact upon and lower our own frequency twofold.


How to shift this karmic entanglement


Before connecting to, or communicating with the other person, centering ourselves and bringing through a higher vibrational feeling of love for the other person, will support us. When coming from a heart centred place, the frequency of our words will reflect this.

This can only be a positive experience for everyone concerned. It will empower and neutralise the energy between us. If we can simply radiate love out to everyone in our lives, this will undoubtedly create harmonious relations, release limiting emotions and enable us to embrace change and transformation that the new energies are bringing.

Why we struggle to hold our sense of self in group situations

I believe that we have all lived through multiple if not many past lifetimes, possibly dating back to the ancient and lost civilisation of Atlantis.

At this magical time of Atlantis, we would have been incredibly spiritual beings, who knew how to harness nature’s energies and the crystalline forces to self-heal and live out incredible existences of abundance and self-mastery.

There was a mis-use and abuse of this healing and powerful energy, resulting in the eventual demise of Atlantis.

What was left of this civilisation was led to what became known as Ancient Egypt by the past ascended master - Thoth.  This civilisation of Atlantis had suffered a disconnection from spirit.

Whether our disconnection happened at this time or during other past lives, it is still present and deeply buried within our psyche. We experience it as a feeling of grief and separateness.

This is why it difficult for us to come together and unify in total harmony within a group. We have lost the ability to communicate, be at ease and keep our sense of self in a group situation. We often experience and even project our feelings of judgement and resentment towards others.  

When we find ourselves in a group situation, whether at work or in a social context, we often experience emotional triggers.

We tend to manipulate and control the situation and other people, often at a subconscious level, so that we no longer feel the denser and negative emotions that can surface for us.

When we respond in a negative way, we disconnect even more from our higher self. We lose the ability to be intuitive in our decision-making and find it difficult to find resolution. We find ourselves in a negative cycle that becomes very hard to break because of this disconnection to spirit!

At times of struggle, it may well appear to us that other people and the Universe are working and conspiring against us. However, we are the ones who are attracting these circumstances to ourselves, rather like a magnet.

Our higher self knows that we need these situations to help us grow and become emotionally stronger.

Ultimately, everything that happens to us in our lives, is divinely orchestrated by Spirit and The Universe – for our higher good. Each and every one of us is loved, protected and guided by the Universe!

Being mindful of this, supports us in times of struggle, to combat that victim mentality that no longer serves a purpose for us.


How can we help ourselves, when we struggle in these moments?


By ‘holding our light’ through difficult situations and group dynamics - all will resolve peacefully and with more ease and grace. The magic happens in the moment when we are getting triggered. If we do not engage; allow ourselves to feel whatever it is we are feeling, knowing that it is just a feeling and just a thought, without letting it get out of control, the feeling will clear and we will find peace and resolution.

To help with this process, I use a heart-centering technique:

I still myself and bring my focus down into the heart. I then bring through a feeling of love and allow that feeling to grow stronger and expand outwards.

This technique enables me to let go of any negativity and gently lifts my frequency. The energy around me responds to this shift in frequency.

The more we practice this technique in the moment, the stronger and more powerful it becomes for us.

Be disciplined with this practice and set the intent to come back to centredness throughout the day.  

The New Energies For 2019

Noticed a difference so far to the feel of 2019 compared to last January 2018?

2018 was, without a doubt, a dense and intense year, energetically speaking. So many of us were struggling in different ways: physically, mentally, emotionally and even spiritually!


The energetic forecast for this year of 2019 is very different. Already the energy feels lighter and more positive. It is an energy that will bring about changes for many of us. We will have ideas and creativity in abundance. The challenge will be to focus on what is important for us and anchor those changes in.


This month of January 2019 is an eclipse month. We had the first eclipse on the weekend of the 5th -6th January, coupled with a new moon in Capricorn. Capricorn energy is very expansive. This half eclipse opened the doorway to the forthcoming eclipse energies occurring on the night of the 26th-27th January. This is going to be a full eclipse on a full moon which is also a supermoon. Triple whammy!


A supermoon means that the moon is closer to Earth than usual. Lunar energies can be very amplifying and so together with eclipse energy, which is very clearing, it is going to feel very intense over the next few weeks. The energies are already building!


Eclipse energy stirs things up. It enables old thoughts, feelings, beliefs and patterning to surface for clearing. This energy presents us with golden opportunities for clearing dense and negative emotions that we all harbour deep inside ourselves.


We therefore have a huge amount of energy coming our way, which will bring life changes for many of us.


This is a magical time and a wonderful opportunity to clear as much of those aspects of ourselves that no longer serve us.


It is important to be on our spiritual game and aware of these cosmic re-alignments and the different energies that they bring.


By trusting in the messages that the cosmos is sending, this will enable us to clear, shift and anchor in the changes that are positive for us.  


This cosmic energy impacts everyone. How it does, will depend on our level of consciousness, spiritual practice and energy work.


Remember, the more regularly we do our spiritual practice and tune into spirit and the Universal energies the more they will support us in our spiritual quest for growth. Practice makes perfect and creates wholeness.


 How to prepare ourselves for potential change and transformation.


·      Clear and declutter our home or work environment of the things that no longer serve us.

·      Become more aware of our own negative thoughts and feelings. Perhaps make a list of our frequent negative thoughts.

·      Clear our negative emotions – identify them, feel them, release them.


 How to support ourselves in these intense times:


·      Listen to our intuition – do what we are drawn to doing for self-support e.g. earlier bedtime, detox, more exercise, walking in nature.

·      Change habits that no longer support us.

·      Discern what saps our energy and avoid them for now: negative stories on social media, uninspiring films and books, people that have a more negative outlook on life, etc.

·      Daily meditative practice.



Start to work this energy to your advantage. Make 2019 an exceptional year for you!


Celebrating the Winter Solstice

Winter Solstice


Winter Solstice occurs on around Friday 21st December every year in the Northern Hemisphere. When the sun reaches the lowest point in the sky – we are able to welcome back the light and the rebirth of the sun.


There is a Summer and a Winter Solstice every year. The summer Solstice occurs on around the 21st June, in the Northern hemisphere. The Solstices are very auspicious and symbolic events, which held a lot of importance for the ancients. The Latin word Solstice means ‘sun stand still’. At the pinnacle of the Solstice, when the sun is at its highest or lowest point in the sky, the sun does appear to be still in the sky and the energy feels magical.


In ancient times – people were deeply connected and aligned to nature and her elements. They understood nature’s cycles and the spiritual and energetic significance behind them.


During the Winter Solstice, we are letting go of the old year and celebrating the birth of a new one. In ancient times, some feared the light would not return! Vigils and rituals were performed; homes were decorated with holly, ivy, mistletoe and pine cones, etc. to bring in and welcome the elements and nature. Log fires and candles were lit to represent the return of light.


Many ancient cultures, for example, the Mayans, Essenes, Druids and Egyptians, understood the spiritual significance of the Solstices.


They built many temples and structures that captured the sun’s divine alignment at these times. Sacred ceremonies were then held to celebrate the light. The head of the Sphinx between the Great Pyramids of Egypt is crowned with the sun at the pinnacle of the Summer Solstice.


Hundreds of sacred sites align with the Solstices: Glastonbury, Stonehenge, Avebury, Tara in Ireland, are but a few.

The Winter Solstice is linked to many religious and cultural festivals. Many significant religious and spiritual teachers are supposedly born near this date, which demonstrates the importance of the Solstices in ancient times.


The Summer Solstice represents abundance, growth, connection to source and honouring the divine within us and within each other.


The Winter Solstice is a quiet time of introspection and reflection on what has been and what will be. This ties in with our tradition of making New Year’s resolutions.


If you are drawn to celebrating the Winter Solstice this year, here are a few ideas to help you celebrate:


A Solstice Fire ceremony

- connect deeper to the Winter Solstice energies


·      Create an alter in your home and decorate it with holly, ivy, pine cones and candles;

·      Light a fire or candle;

·      Spend a moment in a quiet space and go within, tuning into the heart.

·      Be grateful for all the beautiful gifts and wonderful things you have achieved so far this year.

·      Thank Spirit and the Universe for their loving support.

·      Take a moment to reflect on the aspects of your life that need addressing or changing.

·      Write these aspects on pieces of paper.

·      Put them in the fire with the intent to let them go and welcome the new beginnings that the change will bring you.