Why I see difficult times as a gift  

 What is a Spiritual Initiation?

We all have periods in our lives when we are faced with difficult circumstances. This is irrespective of who we are, where we live in the world and how spiritually elevated, we have become.


We could be faced with a health-crises; lost a job; grieving for a loved one; or going through a divorce. Any difficult or potentially life changing circumstance will push and challenge us.


We may even experience an internal struggle – something that affects us spiritually, for example a disconnection from our true and higher self, or an inability to discover more of our destiny and purpose. These can present real challenges for us.


During these times of struggle, the shadow aspects of our personality tend to surface or become more amplified. This helps us to become more aware of them and have an opportunity to overcome them. Every one of us has ‘shadow aspects’ to our personality – these are the more negative or challenging aspects of ourselves.


However difficult and intense these periods of struggle seem, they present a golden opportunity for us to grow and evolve in consciousness. If we were not faced with challenging circumstances, we simply would not grow, shift and change within ourselves and we would stagnate. This is the very nature of duality – the negative circumstances allow us to grow in a positive way to become more whole and complete.


These difficult periods in our lives are what we call Spiritual Initiations.


The more we welcome these difficult circumstances and bless the change learning not to fear it; the more we allow ourselves to surrender to it. This allows for transformation to occur deep within ourselves as we release our limiting emotions and blockages which will surface to clear.


By clearing more of this denser negativity from our emotional patterning, we are allowing our higher attributes and gifts to awaken within us. We all have about 20 higher gifts and talents.


What I have experienced personally is that when embarking on our spiritual journey or pushing our spiritual growth, we will experience more initiations in our lives.


When I do any training for Transference healing, or I hold groups and run energy and sometimes when I have clients that come to me for a Transference Healing session, I will experience initiations in the lead up.


During these initiations we are being given the opportunity to purify our negative and denser emotions, thoughts, intent and ego. In other words, we are being given a chance to clear more of the debris and density within ourselves to allow the inevitable change and transformation and to embody more light within ourselves.


Following purification of our mental and emotional bodies, we then embody and become that change, by integrating this transformation into our reality. This is not always an easy process! This is because loved ones will feel this shift within you and will probably be triggered to shift themselves. This can cause resistance as we all have free will. You simply have to hold this change within yourself!!



What to do when we are in a Spiritual Initiation?



During these times of spiritual initiation, recognise and be mindful of the process that you are going through and keep the faith that this is divinely orchestrated for your higher good. Nurture yourself by doing what is right for you and not because you feel you should!


On a moment by moment basis, connect into your heart and listen to your intuition to ensure you make the right decisions for you.


Be more intentional and heart-felt in your spiritual practices and daily activities.


Surrender is key in these times – remember you are not giving in to the circumstances that have arisen but allowing events to unfold. It is different!


Allow yourself to release and feel the denser thoughts and feelings in order to release them. Remember they are coming up to clear.


Hold you light and be steady. Know that these circumstances are for your higher good and that family members are simply getting triggered because they feel the shifts within you. They may even feel a little confronted as they feel your internal power!


When emotionally releasing, go within, recognise it for what it is and try not to blame and project out.


Remember that it is OK to feel these things and that this will help to keep the faith that you WILL shift through this.


If you feel stuck within this process and it has been going on for a few weeks, then seek support. A healing modality like Transference Healing, will shift you through your initiation more rapidly.


Crystals can help to support us through this process. There are a great many crystals that have different properties. Recently, when I was in a spiritual initiation, I was drawn to work with several crystals. I either have them near me, I wear them as jewellery and have them in the bed at night, so that they can continue to help my clearing process:


Selenite - helps to stabilise and balance emotions.

Carnelian – enhances motivation, endurance, leadership skills, courage and helps to balance the emotional body.

Clear quartz point – is the stone of power. It amplifies intention and energy and relieves negativity.


How being more heart-centred helps our growth and evolution

Humanity, particularly in Western societies, tends to favour and value intellect and logical thinking over intuition and heart-based thinking.


Our decisions, beliefs, actions, intent and words, are often based on what society values rather than our own intuitive feelings.


As a result, we find it difficult to make decisions that are in alignment with our higher selves and that are heart-centred. We are too much in our heads and not enough in our hearts!


There has been a shift in the way of being over recent years, however,  as we are starting to open up to being more heart-intuitive and heart-centred.


We are starting to pay attention to our intuitive thoughts and not so much to our mental chatter.


This enables us to be more heart-centred. When we are more heart-centred, we are more in alignment with our higher selves and with the higher frequencies of love. We are ‘feeling the love’ for ourselves and others, friends, family and even romantic love.


Think back to a time when you fell in love with someone. In those heady days of passion, you were feeling energised, positive, nothing was a problem! This is because the feeling of love is of such a high vibration that it lifts our frequency and can become quite addictive!


Our thoughts and feelings have a vibration that either lowers or raises our frequency, this depends on whether our outlook on life is more negative or positive.


We are all vibrating at a certain frequency and we are like magnets. We attract circumstances, situations and people into our lives depending on our frequency.


When we are ‘feeling the love’ for ourselves and others, we attract more positive circumstances and situations to us. If we can learn to embody these feelings of love, we will attract more good things into our lives!


When people are more awakened and on their spiritual journey, their consciousness is evolving and they will have regular spiritual practices using meditation, visualisation, energy shifting techniques, kundalini yoga, chanting etc, to shift the energy in the body and move deeper into the heart and embody feelings of pure love. This is known as ‘heart mastery’.


Some healing modalities, spiritual practices and teachings, focus purely on heart mastery (working with the heart energies). People will spend a lifetime working in this powerful way.


We have 3 chambers to our etheric heart, whereas our physical heart has 4 chambers.


The first etheric chamber is the one that most people on the planet are familiar with. This resonates or emits a green ray of light. This chamber is associated with feelings of love that we feel for our partners, friends, relations and children. We are all familiar with these feelings and this love tends to be of a conditional nature.


As we work more with the heart and become more heart-centred, we deliberately make choices and set our intent to be more heart-based in consciousness.


As we work more in this way and deepen our spiritual practice, we start to move deeper into the second chamber of the heart. This is associated with unconditional love and the colour of the pink ray.


Some people on this planet are now working at this level and they are going from being ego-centred to more heart-centred. They are moving away from conditioned love to a pure, spiritual, unconditional love.


The 3rd chamber of the etheric heart lies even deeper. It’s key word is compassion and it resonates with the blue ray. Very few people on this planet are working at this level.


It is a very challenging journey to move from the first etheric heart chamber through to the second and then into the third.


Transference healing really helps to guide us through this journey. We work with a great many tools, meditations and energy to help us with this journey.

How to create the reality you desire

We are constantly creating our reality through our thoughts and feelings


We are constantly co-creating our own reality through our thoughts, imagination and feelings. The average person has between 50,000 – 70,000 thoughts per day, which is, needless to say, a phenomenal amount! Our thoughts are powerfully creative, because of the energy that they emanate, but our feelings are hundreds of times more so.


The International Peace Project in the Middle East


During the Israeli-Lebanese war in the early 1980s, researchers trained a group of people to "feel" or embody a feeling of peace within them.

On specific days and times, these people were positioned throughout the war-torn areas of the Middle East and asked to bring in this specific feeling of peace within their bodies.

The researchers were able to prove that during the window of time that this group were feeling peace: terrorist activities, crimes rates, traffic accidents and E&A visits dropped.

At the end of these windows of time, the statistics reversed. The days of the week, holidays, and lunar cycles were all taken into account and bore no relevance on the findings.

The researchers were able to prove that there was a direct correlation between the internal emotions of this group and what was being reflected in their immediate outward reality. They also discovered that only a comparatively small amount of people were needed to have an effect on their outer reality. For example: in a city of 1 million people, approximately 100 people were needed to have an impact on the immediate environment. In other words, when a small percentage of the population achieved peace within themselves, peace was reflected in the world around them.

The Ancient Essenes, in their teachings, referred to this as ‘the mirror effect’. They believed that our innermost beliefs influence our outer world.


The law of attraction and how it works


We all have the divine ability to co-create our reality through the power of our thoughts and feelings. We are like magnets and what we choose to focus our thoughts and feelings on, will simply attract and magnify more of the same to us. This is called the Law of Attraction.

Like the Law of Gravity, the Law of Attraction is a Universal law and no matter who we are or where we live, it effects all of us in the same way.


So all I need to do is change my thoughts to manifest what I’d like in my life?


This seemingly simple notion is, in reality, very difficult to do in the moment. We would all be billionaires and enjoying optimal health, if it were the case!

We have subconscious thoughts that can work against our conscious waking thoughts and we are often not even aware of them. These subconscious thoughts shape our beliefs, our decisions, our actions and ultimately our reality. Making positive changes and transformation for ourselves becomes exceptionally hard to do because of our subconscious thoughts.

We also often tend to think and fear the worst-case scenario when faced with difficult situations and circumstances and our imaginations can be so powerful!


6 steps to start the manifesting process


Step 1: Identify your negative emotions

Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings. Are they more negative or positive?

Listen to inspirational songs, stories and watch uplifting films to help shift and lift the vibration of your thoughts and feelings. The higher your vibration, the more positive your experiences will be.

Centre yourself and connect to your heart and spirit as much as possible. Love is of the highest vibration which will attract positivity for you.


Step 2: Be specific

What is it you would like for yourself? Be specific, clear and realistic with your goals. Ask the Universe for what you want in a specific way and write down your goals daily.


Step 3: Feel as though your goal has already been achieved

For manifestation to occur more quickly and successfully – much more than a mental thought is needed.

Focussing on the feeling that the situation is already resolved, is so much more powerful!

Embody the feeling that the desired situation has already been resolved or has already happened and simply focus on this feeling as much as possible!


Step 4: Use manifestation anchors

Do whatever it takes to continue feeling this feeling!

For example: test drive cars, try on shoes, imagine counting money, feel healthy, energised, loved, supported, etc. Imagine and feel the sensations of whatever it is you are manifesting.


Step 5: Take Inspired action

Listen to your inner voice, take note of any ideas that come to mind and action them if they feel right and effortless. This is known as ‘inspired action’.

Do not rely on ‘if it is meant to be it will simply happen’ – you have to action it!

Be aware that you may experience blocks and obstacles along the way. Once you set your intent and ask for what you want, self-sabotage can raise its head in the form of self-worth issues.


Step 6: Gratitude

Give thanks to the Universe and Spirit for their divine guidance and loving support. Recognise any small shifts and changes – celebrate them. Be grateful to yourself for your efforts and commitment!


What to do when feeling the struggle

We all have periods in our lives that are intense, difficult and trying. These are what I like to term as ‘spiritual initiations’ or ‘shifts’.


During these times, we can struggle with more negative and denser emotions, particular events, health crises, etc – and these periods can take time to resolve or change. They often lead to times of deep soul searching and introspection.

When we are in these voids, we feel the struggle and intensity. Often we have little energy and it is a time when we tend to reflect over what we have achieved so far in our lives and also look at what is not working in our lives.

These times are crucial to our growth and personal development. Without them we would not evolve and would feel stuck.


During these times, however intense and tricky the circumstances or situations may be for us, I now know deep down that things will always resolve.


I know and believe that Divine intervention does exist, which allows me to accept that I ultimately have no control over the circumstances that play out in my life.


If we do not get caught up in the moment and become overwhelmed by the drama of the situation then we obtain gifts of clarity, insight and revelation regarding the circumstances. Our mind also opens to the different possibilities in our life.


So these periods often teach us to re-assess and re-evaluate our lives.


I often get insight into which aspects of my life are no longer working for me. These can include: beliefs about myself and my life; thoughts; feelings towards others and myself; perceptions I may have; certain situations; friendships; relationships in general, etc.

I even start to see the spiritual meaning behind certain events that set up in my day to day life. i.e I start to understand that a situation has led me to where I am now. I also see situations as golden opportunities to grow and to learn to ‘hold my light’ more even when they are tricky…

When we do manage to hold our light and not get caught up in the drama of the situation we again find peace and resolution to ongoing conflict.

How to support ourselves in these times of struggle:


As we are more vulnerable to energetic manipulation and other people’s energy in times of struggle:


·      Try staying away during these periods from people and circumstances that deplete your energy.


·      Be discerning about conversations that you get involved in, films, social media, books, films, etc.


·     It is important to re-connect to source as much as possible and run energy, meditate and have quiet times.


·      I know that my thoughts and feelings impact on others, so I connect to my heart as much as possible to not allow those feelings to be projected out towards others.


How true surrender to circumstances can help us grow


Surrender is a key spiritual concept that plays a huge part in our self-growth.

The act of Surrendering is one that is often misunderstood and trivialised. There is a lot of misconception around the act of surrender and it is often mistakenly perceived as: -

·      An act of failure or defeat; a simple decision to ‘let go’; or a decision that we decide to be comfortable with.

·      A task that we can do or accomplish with our mind.

·      A state that we can will ourselves into.


How we often experience it:


The nature of our mind tries to control everything it comes in contact with. We try to manipulate situations that occur in our lives through our ego which is driven by fear.

We all have strategies and self-defence mechanisms to try to ensure that we only have good experiences and not the bad ones.  Our minds will fight with, reject, ignore and push against the situations that we don’t want to have. 

BUT the natural law of the Universe does not operate like this! The negative situations provide opportunities for soul growth and ultimately we have no control over them!

Eventually, a situation comes into our life or changes in such a way that we can no longer keep fighting against it. We finally know in our hearts, that struggle against the inevitable is futile. We come to realise that another direction or path is needed.

This sort of situation will rock the foundation of who we are and we know it to be past our limits. 

Sometimes it can be a situation that we’ve been living with for a long time or a sudden event that completely overwhelms us.

The circumstances will have the power to bring us to our knees – and even change us forever. This is where true Surrender begins!

Surrender comes when we know that we cannot see a way out of where we are at. We cannot control or manipulate any longer!

We recognise that we can no longer do things the way we have been doing them previously, a moment longer!

The act of Surrender in itself is relatively easy; it’s the path to surrender that’s difficult! But when Surrender finally arrives, we get a deep sense of ease and peace within ourselves.

The situation does not get better or easier, but we feel better because we know to our very core that we cannot fix it! Something deep within us relaxes when we finally accept this.

We don’t give in to the situation, but we give up the notion that we should be controlling it.

The act of Surrender is a true gift.  When we finally accept that we can no longer continue in the way that we have been doing, we allow the flow of life to carry us to where ever it is we need to go. We are often given gifts of wisdom, insight and revelation along the way and circumstances often resolve in miraculous and unimaginable ways.


A Technique for surrender:


I believe that we don’t always need to be on our knees to reach true Surrender every time! We can practice Surrender on a smaller scale, during the moments when we are OK.

When a negative situation occurs in your life, set the intent to feel into the circumstances and feelings that it provokes. Be careful not to allow your mind to add to, manipulate or fight against these feelings. 

Allow yourself to feel into the feelings and go as far as you can with them. I feel that by feeling our feelings in this way, this allows us to surrender to them and eventually to release them. If true surrender occurs, you will experience relief, gratitude, ease, peace and even joy. 

Through my own personal experience of Surrender, I have an inner knowingness that there is something greater in my life that is at play. For when we surrender, not out of helplessness, but out of complete trust that we are divinely guided, cherished, loved and protected by Universe – this becomes very empowering for us!

I know that all the decisions, events and circumstances that play out in my life, are perfect for me and for my higher good. I never question these circumstances because I have an unshakable faith that although tricky, they will always slowly resolve themselves and often in unimaginable ways – if we learn to surrender to them. Ultimately, I know that I am being given a wonderful opportunity for spiritual growth.


Re-connecting with our inner world allows spirit to shine out to the outer one!  

Shine your light on the world!

Up until very recently our education system in the UK, does not place enough value on developing and encouraging unique gifts and talents, inspiration, imagination, creativity and intuition. This was certainly the case when I was growing up as a child and what I witnessed as a teacher in mainstream education. I do believe, however, that things are very slowly beginning to change.  


These valuable aspects of our selves have often been ignored or undervalued, causing suppression of unique gifts and talents and a disconnection to our inner world. Consequently, many clients that I work with, struggle to know who they truly are and what they were ultimately created to do. Many really desire to know what their destiny and purpose is in this life time.


This year alone, I have had countless conversations with clients who feel unfulfilled by their career, job or life in general because of this disconnection to their inner world.


Often their reasons for choosing a particular career or job, arose from financial considerations, expectations from others, or low self-worth issues.


I often meet clients who are either unaware of their passions, gifts and talents or underestimate the importance of bringing them into everyday life.



I feel that in order to reconnect to our inner world, we don’t have to necessarily monetise our passions/gifts/talents or even build a career out of them! (Some people do manage to monetise and forge a career out of what they love to do. For example, professional de-clutterers and Youtubers!)

It is important, however, to value them and create opportunities to use them for ourselves and for others.


We all have unique gifts and talents, but a lot of us don’t recognise them as such. For example, you could be someone who:


·      Loves to make other people laugh;

·      Have a knack for relating events in an engaging way;

·      Is a good listener;

·      Is an amazing parent;

·      Has a very unique sense of style and appearance;

·      Knows how to make their home look beautiful and welcoming;

·      Has amazing organisational skills;

·      Is a great problem solver;

·      Knows how to creatively make the most out of a shoe string budget.


If we deny and undervalue our unique gifts and talents we can sometimes struggle with low self-esteem and this can in turn can lead to conflict issues in our life because we feel undervalued and not heard or seen for who we truly are!


How can we reconnect to our inner world?


·      Think back to your childhood and what you loved to do. What did you spend hours doing as a child?

·      Make a list of the things you can remember doing as a child.

·      Try and find a way to do some of those things regularly, if possible, and if drawn.

·      Watch uplifting films and listen to uplifting stories that touch your heart and soul – these will inspire your spirit.

·      Look to big personalities and achievers for inspiration - notice how they use their gifts and talents.

·      Make a playlist of inspirational music.

·      Have a bank of inspirational teachings to listen to.

·      Create a vision board of quotes and images that inspire you.

·      Always take inspired action.



Reconnecting to your inner world helps you:


·      Feel recognised and valued for who you are.

·      Resolves conflict

·      Enhances self-worth and an inner-sense of self.


Bring more Forgiveness and Unconditional love into your life

Bring forgiveness and unconditional love into your life –

watch as your relationships thrive



As we enter the Autumn period, we are naturally drawn to decluttering and shedding at this point of the yearly cycle. This is the season to be letting go of the things that no longer serve – whether this be physical things like wardrobe items, sentimental objects or, more significantly, negative thoughts, feelings and behaviour patterns. Like nature, we shed the old, unwanted aspects of ourselves, to make way for those things that will serve a purpose for our higher good.  


The inevitability of the changing seasons of nature’s cycle, mirrors our own personal growth.


The new year is born at the Winter Solstice (21st-22nd December). After the death of the old year, this new year starts to mature by the Spring Equinox and then the days start to get longer until the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year. Summer represents the peak and prime of this yearly cycle, where energy and light are abundant. By the Autumn Equinox, the days are shortening, and the nights are lengthening. The year has begun its descent into old age, till we get to the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year; the death of the old year making way for the new year and the start of a new cycle.


This is an optimal time to reflect on how our year has gone. We tend to assess our successes and challenging aspects of ourselves. We are being given a golden opportunity to shed the old, to make way for the new.


Our heart chakra, an energy point within the body stores our emotions. A lot of suppressed pain and wounding from unresolved past life experiences, through to inner child pain and present life trauma – lie deeply buried within the chambers of our heart. These feelings can keep us locked in the past and living with old energy!


In order to release this pain and suppressed feelings from the heart, I work with simple techniques to open up the heart chakra and strengthen feelings of Forgiveness and Unconditional love.

This has become a ‘first thing in the morning’ daily practice for me. It brings through higher feelings of love and compassion and I often remember to come back to this place when I am struggling in the moment, with more negative feelings.

By intentionally bringing through these higher frequency feelings, we create deeper connections with our inner self and with others in our life.

By enabling ourselves to truly let go, we will start to notice a change in our relationships and a shift of focus on life in general.


As we work more with these higher feelings of Forgiveness and Unconditional love, we notice that other people’s behaviour changes towards us!!


I often use  the following Heart opening technique and Forgiveness mantra to enhance these higher feelings within myself.




Heart opening techniques and Mantra of Forgiveness:


Bring to mind a situation, person or organisation with whom you have been struggling with recently.


Be intentional as you bring your focus down into your heart chakra and see, sense or feel your heart opening up and releasing any pain and tension.


Repeat the following Mantra with intent and feeling:


‘I forgive you, I love you, I’m sorry and I thank-you’


Check out my Forgiveness mantra.


This is based on the ancient Hawaiian mantra of Forgiveness and enables us to bring through these higher feelings of Forgiveness and Unconditional love for all.

This in turn creates energetic space for more positive emotions and resolution, bringing in peace and joy and letting go of anger and frustration.


Trust and surrender through the heart also play a big part in the act of Forgiveness. They enable you to see the spiritual meaning behind everything that happens to you and help you to come from a heart-based consciousness.


Buddhist monks call this Compassion. In our Western civilisation, Compassion is often mistaken for the act of feeling sorry for someone else – which is one aspect of Compassion. True Compassion comprises the bedrock of the Buddhist traditions and is a deep, pure love and forgiveness that is embodied at every moment of our lives, despite the situation or person standing in front of us and their attitude towards us.


At the end of the day, it is not about the other person, situation or organisation and the wrong that they may have inflicted upon us, but about the lessons that we can learn from that situation or altercation. Ultimately, we cannot change or control anything on the outside of our inner world but we can change the way we feel about them and the embodiment of Forgiveness absolutely enables us to truly let go and bring through Unconditional love.

Why your Intuition should be your best friend!

 Our Intuition is an amazing tool that we all have, but alot of us choose to ignore.


There are many words for our Intuition – ‘spider senses’, ‘inner guidance’, ‘gut feeling’, ‘instinct’, ‘inner voice’, etc.


The word Intuition means ‘inner teacher’ and it does just that!


If we know how to listen to it, it gives us amazing insight into situations that our brain cannot figure out easily. It comes up with the perfect plan; the perfect thing to say; the perfect feelings that cannot be ignored. So yes, my Intuition is definitely MY best imaginary friend.


I have listened to it for a while now…really listened to it. I consult with it, I ask questions of it. It always comes through for me and gives me the best decisions that are perfect for me in the moment. In fact, it never disappoints.  I feel like my inner-confidence and inner-strength and knowing has sky rocketed since I have been paying attention to my own inner compass.

Nowadays, I don’t really feel the need to ask advice of friends or family because my Intuition always comes through for me and I try and take inspired action from it.

Like I always say to my clients, the advice and opinions that they seek from others, are not necessarily the best for them!


Developing my intuitive muscle has, without a doubt, served a huge purpose for me.


How to develop our intuitive muscle:


In order to successfully develop our Intuition, trusting and being open to receive higher guidance is crucial!



Step 1: Setting your intent

While trust takes a while to develop, setting our intent to be open to receive messages in the form of signs, symbols, feelings, seemingly random thoughts from the Universe, can be done from the outset.


Step 2: Still yourself and quieten your mind


Perhaps take time first thing in the morning to carve out 5 minutes for yourself to go within and centre.



Step 3: Start small and be specific

Ask a specific question of your inner guide. If this is all new to you, then start with a small question that doesn’t have a huge consequence for you. Be really specific and concise with your question. Put it out there and wait for a sign, a feeling, a random thought that may pop into your head. Sometimes answers come through immediately, sometimes it may take a few days. But EVERYTHING is answered.


Step 4: Be open to receive

Set your intent to be open to whatever comes through for you. You will know when it is your Intuition and not just wishful thinking, by paying attention to your body. Your body will relax and the guidance will feel right for you. If there is any fear coming up, then this is not your Intuition, these are fear driven thoughts from your ego that loves to be in control!



Step 5: Keep a journal


Keep a journal by your bedside, in your handbag and at work, if need be. You can record any intuitive insight that comes through for you, during the day. Also make a note of the questions that you asked. This will enable you to appreciate your progress and hopefully keep the momentum going.





Step 6: take inspired action


When your questions are answered, take action! This allows the Universe to see that you are paying attention and will in turn reciprocate with more guidance. The more you listen to those subtle whispers of the heart, the stronger and more frequently they will become for you. Consequently, your trust will grow, along with your inner knowing and confidence.

How to bring long lasting change and transformation into your life


Taking responsibility for our reality


We are going to explore how to create deep transformation within ourselves.

The first step towards deep transformation, is recognising that our thoughts and feelings create our reality (see ‘how we weave and create our reality’ blog post).

Not only is it important to recognise this fact, but we need to own it and take responsibility for it too. Scary thought, right?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not apportioning blame and I am only too aware of the responsibility that I have had to shoulder for the creation of my own reality over the years!

Taking ownership of our own creations is a very empowering process for us! It means that we are ready to take the steps needed to resolve our current circumstances!



Preparing our environment


Before we take steps to resolve the parts of our lives that are not working for us, we need to prepare our ‘environment’.


By ‘environment’, I mean our mind; physical environment – home or work space; and our habits.


We need to identify what is no longer serving us in our lives and let go of it making way for the new things that will serve us – we are creating energetic space or an energetic vacuum.

In other words, it is time for some de-cluttering!

Decluttering for me, feels like a snake shedding its skin to reveal the shiny new one underneath. This is why it feels so good and many people are drawn to doing it.



Decluttering your environment to create energetic space


Step 1:

Look at your ‘environment’ and identify the things that no longer serve you:


Your environment includes:  –


Your mind: thoughts and feelings

Your home and work space: the house, garden, work space, decorative objects, wardrobe, cars, etc

Your habits:  films, books, podcasts, social media, foods, daily routines, exercise and spiritual nourishment


Step 2:

Make a list of the thoughts, feelings, objects, clothes, habits, etc that no longer serve you.



Step 3:

Each week take one or two things from your list and work on letting them go.


Step 4:

You have now created space and set your intent to allow new things into your life. Start to make loving choices for yourself.

We get our ‘spiritual nourishment’ by doing what feeds the soul and makes us sing.

This might be fulfilling a life-long desire/dream or simply watching an inspirational film regularly.

Do what brings you pleasure on a regular basis, however small. The other day, I bought myself a new lipstick and hair accessories and set the intent to spend more time on my appearance.


By making loving choices and acting upon them, you also give permission to others to do the same.


Be inspired, in spirit and inspiring to others!


Take it even further and give to the causes, organisations or people that nourish and inspire you – whether it be money, gratitude, time, effort, skills, etc.



Everyday practices for self-healing and transformation


Every morning, I practice physical and emotional clearing. Try these simple techniques to help clear physical symptoms and negativity from the body and mind.


Physical clearing:


·      If you have ongoing physical symptoms – feel into the sensations that these symptoms are bringing up for you.

·      Allow yourself to go right into the sensations and feel them dissolving.

·      Feel your body to be healing or healed. (even though it may not be – this is important).

·      Bring into your body a feeling of vitality and allow this feeling to spread throughout your entire body.



Mental and emotional clearing:


As soon as you wake up:

·      Identify your thoughts and feelings.

·      Tune into your feelings and allow yourself to feel them without attaching your thoughts.

·      Feel them dissolving and losing their power over you.

·      Simply say to your thoughts – ‘not today thank-you!’

·      Set your intent to only allow loving thoughts into your mind.

·      Set your intent to go forwards through your day with love, peace and flow in your heart.

·      Feel love and gratitude for the day that you are about to start.



At first, these practices may seem a little strange and even contrived. I know from personal experience, however, that if practiced daily, you will start to notice small shifts and changes within your reality. This will give you the momentum to continue.


As always say to my clients: “it is not what you did today that counts, it is what you do every day!”

How we weave and create our own reality

We are the creators of our own reality


We are all powerfully creative and are constantly weaving our reality, whether we are conscious of this fact or not!

Creativity in this context means to bring an idea, dream or thought into our reality and make it real. Creativity is an aspect of Manifestation.

Our thoughts are so powerfully creative, but our feelings are even more so. (In fact they are 100s of times more powerfully creative than our thoughts because of the energy that they hold). Whether these thoughts and feelings are positive or negative, they shape our reality and define who we are.

Because we use phrases such as: ‘don’t start creating’, ‘don’t cause chaos’/ ’don’t create a drama’ or ‘don’t make a scene’…

…I feel that at some level, we must know that our words, actions, intent, thoughts and feelings create a ripple effect throughout our reality – much like a spider on it’s web.


This concept of the spider’s web is found in many phrases such as:


·      the webs we weave

·      being tangled in a web of lies

·      spinning a yarn

·      webbing

·      even the world wide web


Our use of these phrases confirms that:


·      our thoughts and feelings are powerfully creative

·      we are creating our reality through them

·      our thoughts and feelings will impact on others – creating a ripple effect


‘We are the weavers of our own web of reality’ 


This is an empowering and rather scary thought! Although we are responsible in some part for creating our reality – it also means that we can take our power back, harness our thoughts and feelings and even heal our bodies, minds and souls.



No more excuses for negative projection!


When we understand how we create our own reality through our thoughts and feelings, awareness of our emotions at any given time, is crucial.

We no longer have the luxury of blaming others for our present circumstances, as we know that we are the creators of our own reality.

If unchecked, negativity causes blockages in our natural flow of energy and over a period of time, stagnation will settle in stopping our natural flow of manifestation.

Our frequency and vibration can lower and this lower vibration attracts more negative, denser thoughts, feelings, circumstances, and even people, to us. We start to control these situations, circumstances and other people in our lives through fear, perhaps building up self-defence mechanisms. Illusion starts to develop.

This becomes a hard cycle for us to break and it becomes even harder to look for optimal solutions to our tricky or difficult circumstances!

It also means that our good old ego has completely taken control of our consciousness through fear and is in the driving seat once again.


How do we weave a positive reality for ourselves?


Reconnecting to our inner world as much as possible is key. We need to be aware of our thoughts and feelings, take ownership of them, not blame others for our difficult circumstances and surrender and let go to the forces of destiny in our lives. 


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